Grammatical inference has been extensively studied in recent years as a result of its wide field of application, and in turn, recurrent neural networks have proved themselves to be a good tool for grammatical inference. The learning algorithms for these neural networks, however, have been far less studied than those for feed-forward neural networks. Classical training methods for recurrent neural networks suffer from being trapped in local minimal and having a high computational time. In addition, selecting the optimal size of a neural network for a particular application is a difficult task. This suggests that the problems of developing methods to determine optimal topologies and new training algorithms should be studied. In this paper, we present a multi-objective evolutionary algorithm which is able to determine the optimal size of recurrent neural networks in any particular application. This is specially analyzed in the case of grammatical inference: in particular, we study how to establish the optimal size of a recurrent neural network in order to learn positive and negative examples in a certain language, and how to determine the corresponding automaton using a self-organizing map once the training has been completed.